Tuesday, November 29, 2011

"Innies and outies"...how to navigate the season with introverts & extroverts

Decking the halls at your house yet?  Planning your December festivities?

It's good to consider that you most likely have two types of people in your life....extroverts and introverts.  If that is so, they probably have different ways they prefer celebrating special occasions.  

Extroverts love the glitz, socialization and excitement of activity.  Did you know introverts enjoy all that too, but on a smaller scale?  While an extrovert may love a full calendar of places to go and things to do, an introvert likes periods of "down time" in between so they can reflect and refresh their energy level for the next event. 

Before you give in to the things you always do this time of year, why not ask each member of the family what they would like to do to celebrate?  It's always good to tell them you are open to new suggestions and that just because "we always do that" doesn't mean we have to do it every year.  You might be surprised by the responses.

Ask each member of the family what 3 things they would like to do as part of celebrating Christmas this year.  This allows everyone to have input.

What things do family members enjoy doing together with just your family? What activities do they enjoy as part of a larger group or community?

"Giving" outlives "getting" when it comes to contentment.  Is giving to someone in need a part of your family celebration? 

What activities energize them?  What drains them?

Create an environment where every member of the family is heard.  Then put together activities that honor each family member's style of celebrating with some time in between for a "breather."  It's a good life exercise for all of us to consider each other.

I'm going to be on the radio this weekend!

Listen in on Saturday, December 3rd, 10AM PST to KGNW.com.  Or if you are in Seattle, KGNW 820 AM. I'm the featured guest on "Coffee with the Coaches."  Hosts Suzanne, Laurie and I will be talking about meaningful celebration and how to make sure to include introverts in the action.  I'll be doing a give-away so you'll need to listen in and find out how to enter.  You can even call into the show to ask a question.

Hope you'll be listening in on Saturday morning!

Photo:  istockphoto.com/Nathan Jones

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